From Emotional Hell to Transformational Ease

Question to Paularyo: I was in Emotional Hell last weekend. I went to an event where all of my "buttons" were pushed. This happens most often at family events. I want to be loving and kind, but instead I implode and I feel like I'm drowning in an emotional whirlpool. Help!

My dear,

Criticism of others is a learned response to emotional pain.

Criticism of Self is a response to Fear of Abandonment.

When you combine the two, you lose your sense of Self. Your forget who you are in your heart/soul, and go into Survival Mode.

Man's Survival Mode is essential in times of immediate danger...when your life is threatened - by force, by nature, by your need for food, water and shelter.

When you enter Survival Mode as a response to perceived emotional danger - fear of abandonment - all of your physical resources are on alert. You depend on your brain to scan the danger and to find a Path of Survival.

Your Emotional Path of Survival was developed during your childhood. You experimented with various paths until you refined your unique Emotional Path of Survival. Over the years it becomes your automatic subconscious response to perceived emotional threats.

Does your Emotional Path of Survival serve you today?

Gift your Self with the time and space to...

• Uncover your subconscious Path of Emotional Survival.
• Discover how it served you, and thank it for supporting you during your formative years.
• Allow your Self - your Heart and Soul - to transform this energy into your Path of Ease. This is your newly created response, a healthy response, a healing response, when you perceive emotional threats of criticism, of emotional abandonment.
• Allow your Self to revisit your Path of Ease periodically to update it. As you continue to evolve during you life, your Path of Ease will also evolve.

Allow it to be easy.

And it is so.

(Note from Connie: I have set up a telephone class during which you will create your unique "Path of Healing." Press here for all the information.)

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Why is it that we attract into our lives things that we don’t want? 
Why do we shut down our hearts?

My Dear,

What is it that you expect from your life? 

Do you expect that your life will be without challenge?  Do you expect that your life will be as a flat road with no bumps, no boulders, no detours?    If that is what you expect, you will be quite disappointed with this life, my dears.

You learn best through opposites. 

How?

You invite these “unwanted” experiences into your life so that you can learn from them.

You experience these events as the opposite of what you want in your life when you perceive them from your head.

There will be times when you will “shut your heart down” for a length of time so that you can remember what it is like to experience the opposite of your Soul Self - your Ka. 

None of this is a mistake.

When you experience the opposite, instead of judging your Self, we want you to come from compassion and curiosity – “What is it that I'm learning right now?”

In this way the approach to your question is a very positive approach.  It is not a “What’s wrong?  What am I doing wrong?  Why is this happening to me?” approach.

Instead it is with compassion for your Self and with curiosity for the lesson, “Ahhhh, this is my perception of what is happening.  What can I learn from it?  How can I best move forward so I don’t need to repeat this same sort of lesson over and over?”

The mistake that you make is thinking that this shouldn’t be happening to you.  Absolutely it happens in your life.  It happens in everyone’s life. 

When you learn from it, then you don’t have to keep repeating that same block, boulder, or detour over and over and over again. 

When you shut yourself down, when you live in your head instead of your heart, and then return to your heart – this process enhances your compassion for your Self and for people who continually live in their head. 

To live in your heart 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, for the rest of your life would be wonderful – but it isn’t very realistic, is it?  If you could do that you wouldn’t be here learning.

In this moment, we want you to think of something that has been happening in your life recently that has been frustrating to you, or disappointing to you.  What recently has been a boulder to a Path of ease?  

Once you have identified an event or experience, take a deep relaxing breath.

Expand your Bubble, your energy field, to the size of the universe and beyond. Insist that any energies or entities that are in your Bubble which are from other than the highest Source leave immediately.

Invite into your Bubble - your Guides, your Angels, the Masters, Mother Earth, and the Source. Invite in all the energies and entities from the highest Source to bring you the energy and the information that is for the best and highest good of all.

Imagine extending out of your solar plexus chakra is your Life Path. 

Step on the Path and walk up to this boulder, this energy that has been frustrating you in your life. 

Ask this boulder, this energy form, “What have you come to teach me?”

The easiest way to receive your Message from Spirit is to expand your Bubble.  Simply expand your Bubble until the response bubbles up within you.

You may receive words, pictures, or feelings.  Allow whatever it is to bubble up.  What Message do you hear, feel, or see?

Participant 1:  “I got - don’t force it.  When the mind thinks it is supposed to be one way, don’t think that it has to be that one way.”

Participant 2:  “The word came up instantly - compassion.  Don’t look for right or wrong.  Just show compassion.”

Participant 3:  “I got – expansion.  This is meant to be an expansion in my life and my son’s life.  I want to let him expand at his own pace.”

Participant 4:  “I felt the words - love me.  The situation, the people involved, are responding in a way that makes no sense to me.  I am to stay in the energy of loving them instead of resisting their response.”

Participant 5:  “I heard - you are bigger than this.  This means to me that during the trials and negativity coming from situations in my family, I don't have to hold everyone together.  My energy can expand.  I don’t need to get caught up in it and take responsibility for how others are doing.”

Participant 6:  “I heard - Staying in your head is a way of avoiding making an emotional connection to others.  I realize this can keep me from making a human connection with others.  I want to connect heart to heart.”

Participant 7:  “I got - It’s an opportunity to not react.  It’s interesting that I react to some things in a totally different way than others.  I want to replace reacting with observing, with accepting, with open heartedness and detachment.  Then I can choose how to react.”

Participant 8:  “I got – make friends with the obstacle.  I was frantically desperate to find a new job, and it just wasn’t happening.  As I looked at this boulder I realized that I actually have a really good job and I don’t need to change.  I was in such tunnel vision about the change that I wasn’t appreciating what I have.”

My dears, when you go out of you heart and go into your head, you go into circular thinking.  You cannot solve anything from circular thinking. 

Tonight you took an opportunity to return to your heart.  When you see the obstacle from your heart, you have a different perspective, do you not?  This allows you to see that the obstacle was created by your response to a situation. 

The next time you realize that you are in your head spinning, have compassion for your Self. You can even laugh at your Self recognizing that this is who you are when you are in your head spinning. 

Then expand your Bubble and see the perceived obstacle from your heart.  In this way you can find the answer and the lesson more easily and more quickly.

Thank your Guides for giving you your Message. 

Allow it to be easy.

And it is so.

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Powerful 15-Second Stress Buster

Allow it to be easy to bring love...joy...peace...healing...and passion for your path...into your life everyday.

You ask us, "How?"

Step 1

Ask your Self - Am I willing to transform my limiting "should"s into the enhancing "Allow"?

These limiting "should"s served you well in your past, but now limit your freedom to
Be all that you can Be.

Ask your Self...

• Am I willing to "Allow"?
• Am I willing to "Allow it to be easy"?
• Am I willing to bring Love, Peace, Joy, Healing, and
  Passion for My Path into my Life?
  

Yes.

What can I DO to create this?

Step 2

• Thank these limiting "should"s for serving you in your past.
  • "Should" implies control and leads to stress.
  • "Allow" implies faith and leads to ease.
• Decide to "Allow."
• Decide to "Allow it to be easy."
• Decide over and over again throughout your day to allow the energy of your limiting and stress-producing "should"s to transform into the expansive and ease-producing "Allow."
  

How?

Step 3

Repeat the mantra...

• Take in a deep breath with "Allow it..."
• Release the breath with "...to be Easy" as you expand your energy bubble and imagine your heart energy floating up over your head. Perceive the world from your heart energy.

Repeat your breathing mantra two more times, continuing to expand your energy bubble and to perceive through your heart energy.

Use this simple 3-breath Tool for Transformation over and over again throughout your day.

In the process your subconscious easily and effortlessly transforms your "should"s into the "Allow."

As best you can, continue to perceive your world through your heart energy above your head and keep your bubble expanded. Notice how you perceive your world differently. Notice how this brings your mind/body/spirit out of stress and into ease.

Allow it.
Allow it to be easy.
Allow your Self to be open to love...peace...joy...healing...and passion for your path.

Decide to...

• Do it - Allow
• Be it - Ease

Allow it to be Easy.

And it is so.

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"Releasing Your Expectations"

Question to Paularyo:
"Paularyo, I feel shut down and stuck. I recently had a misunderstanding with a good friend and it's not resolved. I just don't know what to do. Help please!"
Elaine

Response from Paularyo:

My Dear,

Move beyond this. You are hanging on to the pain. You are in your head, trying to find resolution. Your ego wants to figure it out. Your ego wants perfection from your friend and from your Self.

Do not expect perfection of your Self or your friends or your family or your colleagues. It neither serves you nor them.

Allow your Self to have compassion for you and for them. No expectations of perfection.

NO EXPECTATIONS OF...

• your Self
• your friends
• your family

Only WANT the best and accept what IS.

BE in your heart.*

BE in your soul.

DO the best you can in the moment.

KNOW that others are DOing the best they can.

Allow it to BE

Allow it to be easy.

And it is so.

*Note from Connie: To learn how to drop into your heart, press here.

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"How to Drop into Your Heart"

My dears,

For you to discover Your Truths, drop into your heart.

How?

We would like for this process to be easy for you. The tools we are about to present are given so that you can allow it to be easy.

Imagine that you are in an energy bubble. Take a moment. Close your eyes. Take a deep relaxing breath and feel a bubble around you. This is your energy field. Allow yourself to imagine this bubble. Allow your childhood imagination to assist you in this process. Allow yourself to imagine the size and the color (or colors) that appear to you. Allow it to be easy, my dear.

With your energy field brought to your conscious level, notice what you feel in your body. Notice how your energy bubble feels to you. This is the energy, my dear, that other people feel when they are in your presence. Once more, please stop and feel your energy field.

We ask you now to expand your bubble. Allow it to be easy. Use your imagination. Expand your bubble to twice its original size. Notice how you feel.

If you have trouble expanding your bubble, you are in fear. Allow the fear. How has this fear served you in the past? Honor the fear . . . then allow the energy of fear to transform into faith. Faith in the process. Faith in you. Faith in spirit. Faith in the universe. Now, allow your bubble to expand.

You will notice that as you expand your bubble, your physical being becomes more peaceful, your mental being becomes more clear, your emotional being becomes more balanced, and your spiritual being becomes more open.

Expand your bubble to twice its present size. Notice an even deeper peace in your physical being, clarity in your mental being, balance in your emotional being, and receptivity in your spiritual being.

Allow your bubble to expand once more to at least twice its size. Allow it to become as large as is comfortable for you. Perhaps as large as the universe. Just be in this energy for a few moments. Notice the effects on your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual being. Allow yourself to be fully peaceful, clear, balanced, and open to spirit.

We ask you to be aware that while you are within your expanded energy bubble, you automatically drop from your head into your heart. Imagine you think from your heart, hear from your heart, and speak from your heart. Allow it to be easy. Be in this present moment.

Be in the present. Be in your heart. It may help, my dear, to visualize yourself in the presence of someone or a pet you dearly love and trust. You’ll automatically be in the energy of love and drop into your heart.

If any fears for your future or pains of your past appear that take you back into your head, notice that your bubble shrinks. Spend a few moments recognizing and allowing the fears and pains. Know that these pains and these fears have served you in some way. They are simply energy. How have these energies served you in the past?

Allow the energy of fear to transform into the energy of faith, and the energy of pain to transform into the energy of peace of the present while expanding your bubble, allowing yourself to drop once more into your heart.

Feel what it is like to be in this present moment, to be in your heart chakra, in your heart center. This, my dear, is the center of your spiritual being. It is where your soul energy resides. It contains the loving and gentle qualities of your soul self, your Ka. It is from this center that you allow your master spirit guides to speak to and through you. Be in your core. Feel your innate soul being. 

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"Allow it to be Easy"

Dear One,

These are Universal Truths.

Speak these words aloud...

"I allow it to be easy.

Living from my Soul has a healing domino effect.

I experience compassion for my Self and others...

which leads to accepting my Self and others without criticism or judgment...

which leads to peace flowing through my mind, body, and spirit...

which leads to healing my mind, body, and spirit.

I allow it to be easy.

I allow my Self to be one with Love, Peace, Joy, Healing,
Passion for my Path, my Soul Self, my Spirit Guides,
my Angels, the Masters, Mother Earth, and
the Infinite Source.

I allow my Self to...
See the Truth,
Speak the Truth,
Hold the Truth in my Heart,
Walk the Path of Truth,
Know the Truth of my Emotions, and
Be Based in Truth.

I allow my Self to be in the Present Moment.

I am Free-Spirited.

I am in Faith that Spirit wants and provides the best for me.

I am aware of the Flow of Coincidences in my Life.

I am grateful for all that has happened in my Life.

I am grateful for all that I Am in my Life.

I am grateful for all that I Have in my Life.

I am grateful for all that is to Come into my Life.

I Allow it to be Easy.

And it is so. "

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"Is 'Perfection' your goal?"

Dear One,

Your culture is often in awe of perfection, yes?

With perfection as your goal you live your life in competition with your Self.

When 'perfection' is transformed into 'Allow it to be easy' you allow your life to flow. It takes its own best course.

There will be curves in the stream of life, yes. With this transformation, you easily flow over some boulders and swirl around other boulders. Allow your Self to accept the flow, appreciate the movement, and heal the need for perfection.

Will you maintain this new habit 24 hours a day? Probably not. Imagine your life as two steps forward and one step back.

As you step into new territory you are breaking old patterns, old habits. Anything new can be awkward.

You may want to return to your 'comfort zone.' --- a place that is known and comfortable, almost predictable for you. So you take a step back and return to your old patterns.

When you are ready, you step forward again. When the new pattern becomes comfortable, you will step forward once more, coming more and more into your Ka, your soul's Essence.

When you step back, please do not criticize your Self. This is a very human trait --- returning to the comfort zone. Allow it. Have compassion for your Self, and step forward when you are ready. Be patient with your Self. You are doing the best you can.

Allow it to be easy, my dear. And it is so.

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"Healing Your Expectations of Others"

Dear One,

Your heart holds the energy of your soul. It also holds the energy of your yearnings. These energies reside together because it is your yearnings which propel you along your path of soul growth.

Yearning can be interpreted as "victim" when your left brain tries to make sense of an emotion which is in your heart. Your left brain wants to categorize and then "fix" emotions that appear to indicate there is something lacking in your life. So...the emotion of "yearning" is interpreted as "lacking" which leads you into the "victim mode."

When your heart is yearning for loving behavior from another, and you feel in victim mode due to the behavior of this being, your left brain has created expectations. Expectations imply your desire to control the path of others. My dear, when you feel yourself as a victim, you are in your head, desiring control. You enter circular thinking ...where nothing is resolved.

You can return to your heart and send energy to this being. You can send the energy of love...imagine that now...send the energy of love to someone of whom you have been having expectations. What happens?

You feel the compassion for yourself and for that person, which brings your body into a state of peace. Now send expectation to that person...expectation for that person to behave in a specific way. How does it feel to you?

It brings tension to your body and mind.

How do you imagine it feels to that person? The person can feel, perhaps at a subconscious level, this energy of expectation from you.

When you transform your head's energy of expectation into your heart's energy of love...you move from dis-ease to ease...you heal yourself in that moment. You know in your heart that you only have control over yourself. You can only change yourself. Only you can heal yourself.

Imagine that you are in your heart in this moment...knowing that the feeling of yearning is the precursor to soul growth. Now ask your soul, "What is your message to me in this moment?" Then be still. Clear you mind. Remain in your heart.

Allow your soul's energy to speak to you from your heart. Listen to your heart. Words of wisdom bubble up and provide you with your Soul's Guidance. Allow yourself to write down what you hear, or feel, or "know" from your heart.

My dear, walk the path of understanding your heart's yearnings, using them to spark your soul growth. Walk the path of healing. Walk the Spiritual Path of Being.

Allow it to be easy. And it is so.

(Note from Connie: To learn how to drop from your head to your heart,
read this message from Paularyo.)

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"Creating Peace in the Midst of Chaos"

Question to Paularyo:
It seems as if there's chaos all around me. I feel confused and seem to lose my way. Please help me to be peaceful in the midst of chaos.

Channeled Message from Paularyo:

Dear One,

You are allowing the energies of confusion and chaos to enter your energy bubble. This energy abounds in your culture - a culture filled with the need for control and greed. As your culture values

(1) control over other beings, and
(2) the "need" (greed) for more, the energy of chaos and confusion is created.

It is your life path to live in this culture, to be "a part" of this culture, yet "apart" from these values.

Be Spirit in this moment. Rise above, literally, your culture, your world. In this moment....imagine your bubble of energy - your energy field - be in your bubble - FEEL your bubble's energy - imagine now that you bubble is floating up - floating into the Oneness of Spirit.

As you float above, imagine that you can see with your Soul eyes - that you can comprehend with your Soul the energies of Truth.

As you observe your Mother Earth with your Soul eyes, you see as many Truths as you see Beings on the Earth. Notice the energy around each person. Notice the energy around your country. There abounds the belief that it is possible to control the path of other beings on Mother Earth. As your culture interferes and interrupts the flow of other culture's learnings, the energies of chaos, confusion, conflict, and concentrated effort fill your culture's energy space.

It is Your Path, as you rise above and observe the various Truths in your culture, to see these beings through the eye of your Soul, with the eye of Spirit, with compassion for the isolation these beings create for themselves and your country.

Yes, these individuals isolate themselves from their soul.

They forget, in their humanness, that they can only change themselves. When they attempt to control others, they create the energies of chaos, confusion, and conflict in the name of "peace."

My dear, allow yourself now to switch your focus and observe, with the eyes of your soul, the energy created by the souls on the Earth who are creating Peace...those who create peace in their souls...those who gift Mother Earth with the energy of peace...just as the soul of Mother Theresa did.

Look down now and notice the influence of these peace-full souls on your Earth's energy. See calm in the midst of chaos. See the influence of Spirit - as compared to the influence of chaos.

My dear, be One with the energy of Peace. Be Peace. Look down and see the beings who emanate Peace. Notice the ripples of Peace around these beings.

Now, imagine that your Spirit Self, your Soul Self, your bubble, floats back down to re-integrate with your Earth being. And, in this moment, BE Peace. Be in your heart...the earthly home of your soul. See with your heart. Imagine ripples of Peace generating out from you to those around you.

You cannot make others peaceful. You can offer them Peace. You can BE Peace in their presence. You can think Peace. You can act Peace. You can generate Peace. Just as your Sun generates warmth so that the plants are nourished, you generate Peace to nourish the Souls of those in your culture, on your Earth.

Allow this to be your Path.

Allow it to be easy. And it is so.

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"How can I trust Spirit?"

Question to Paularyo
When it comes to trusting Spirit, it's like trusting myself...my doubt surfaces. How can I trust Spirit?

Channeled Message from Paularyo

Dear One,

Doubting Spirit is part of the human search for truth...a truth you can depend on...a truth which will remain constant.

No human truths remain constant. Your truths evolve as your soul evolves. Allow it to be your truth in the moment.

Question to Paularyo
What can I do when I can't even find the truth of the moment? When I feel lost and alone?

Channeled Message from Paularyo
Oh my dear, you are doubting yourself and your purpose for being when you reach this level of doubt. In these moments you escape to your long-held stress response. That is, you escape to your head - it is where your culture has taught you the answers to solving your stress lie.

Your schools teach you to store scientific truths in your head and then use them to solve the mysteries of science. You followed their instructions, and received praise. You felt as if you knew something. You solved a problem using your head, and life was good. You began to believe that you can solve all of life's mysteries in your head.

This was your escape from the stress of school. You would go to your head, the home of the temporary truth.

As your scientists have begun to discover, there is more to your life, your world, your universe than can be explained in the 2 + 2 = 4 theory. Quantum physicists are opening their minds...discovering their intuition, and uncovering new "truths" daily. These new truths disprove the temporary truths of yesterday.

My dear, you learned to trust the truths of your childhood. One such truth: "When you are in stress and want to solve a problem, go to your head. All the answers are stored there."

As a child this was your truth. When a question was asked of you, you felt stressed. You went to your head and solved the problem. You were highly praised. You were happy. You were successful.

When you could not find the solution to the problem in your head, you felt a failure. You were un-happy...un-successful.

You developed a long-held habit, "When I am stressed, I can go to my head to find the solution. Then I will be happy. If I cannot find the solution there, I will be unhappy."

This was your temporary truth, my dear. The most important truths in your life are stored in your heart. But heart-truths were often not praised when you were a child, and did not bring the external gratification you sought. Today it is the truths of your heart that you seek. It is with these truths that you discover internal happiness...true, lasting happiness. Not the temporary lift of external validation...praise, a raise or promotion at work, a new home, new car, or new clothes...these are all temporary.

Some people are addicted to external sources of happiness. These people cannot receive enough. Whatever they get is a temporary fix...but they soon need more and are dissatisfied and tend to blame external sources such as people, places, or things for their unhappiness. They do not understand that they are enough. Are you enough?

If you go to your head for the answer, your thinking goes in circles. Circular thinking is your marker that you are in your head seeking an answer that lies in your heart.

The easiest way to return to your heart is with your energy bubble. Imagine a bubble of energy around you...it is your energy field...think ONLY of your bubble...allow your mind to clear...imagine your bubble expanding. Allow it to find it's most comfortable size...perhaps as large as the universe. BE in this energy for a few moments. FEEL this energy. FEEL your energy.

Then, open your third eye of compassion. Imagine you are with the important people in your life. Look with the eye of your Soul, with the eye of compassion at those around you.

You will recognize those who are in their head trying to solve a life mystery, and are thus in circular thinking, leading to pain. Have
compassion for them, and see a reflection of yourself.

Trust that Spirit will bring to your path the exact right people to reflect your own pain, your own truths. When you expand your bubble and open your third eye, you will recognize them.

As you have compassion for them, allow your Heart, the earthly home of your Soul, to have compassion for YOU...for that part of you who has been enculturated to believe:

There must be more,
External praise and/or material possessions bring me happiness,
The answers to life's challenges are in my head,
I will be happy when other people, places, and things line up perfectly for me,
True happiness is just beyond my reach, and
When (fill-in-the-blank) happens, I will finally be happy.

My dear, external sources of love, peace, and joy are temporary. Know that and know that you are enough in this moment. You are enough. All answers to life's stresses are temporary except for internal peace, love, and joy.

"How do I find internal peace, love, and joy?" you ask.

By allowing yourself to trust YOU. To know that the answers are in your heart. To develop new habits:

Instead of escaping to your head when you are in stress, be fully present to your life and in your heart. The truth will bubble up from your heart.

Allow it.

Instead of waiting for external validation, know that you are enough. Allow peace, love, and joy to emanate from your heart.

Allow yourself to know this truth: "There is only the moment. In this moment I have enough. I am enough."

Allow it to be easy. And it is so.

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"Help with Holiday Spirit"

Question to Paularyo:
In the midst of the holidays, I often feel hectic and "caught up" with other's expectations of me. What can I do to get into the holiday spirit?

Channeled Message from Paularyo:

Dear One,

Holiday Spirit is just that: Spirit.

Our question to you is...will you allow Spirit into your Holiday?

You have a choice my dear. You can spend your holiday in your head...or in your heart. When you go to your head, you enter either...

the pain of the past...and may want to avoid some people,

or

the fear of the future...and enter the hectic energy of frenzy...worrying what to give, what to wear, and how to make others happy.

My dear, when you choose to go shopping in your expanded bubble...in your heart (instead of your head), the perfect holiday gifts for friends and family find their way to you.

When you go shopping for your holiday clothes while in your heart, the perfect right clothes find you.

When you allow yourself to Be in your heart, the home of your soul, with your energy bubble as large as the universe, with your soul leading the way...you can choose to be 'lovingly detached' from people, and from how others perceive you.

You allow your soul to shine. You allow yourself to Be. You allow it to be Easy.

My dear, when you are lovingly detached, you fear not what others think of you. You fear not that you will fall short. Instead you are...

...in your heart.
...in your soul.
...in your bubble.
...in the peace of the present.

Allow yourself to fully BE in each moment.

See your family and friends with your third eye...with the Truth of Compassion.

Feel yourself in the light of Spirit...the Spirit of the Holidays.

My dear make the decision to

See with the eye of Spirit,

Speak with the voice of your soul, and

Allow Ease to be your Guide.

Allow the Spirit of the Holidays to sparkle in your eyes...the window to your soul.

Allow it to be easy. And it is so.

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"Allow your heart to be reborn into your long-held dreams"

Question to Paularyo:
I'm having trouble coming up with a new year's resolution. Can you pls give me some help?

Channeled Message from Paularyo:

As you enter this 'New Year' (in your understanding of time,) allow your Self to begin as if anew. Allow your heart to be reborn into your long-held dreams.

My dear, imagine, if you will, that your life is a dream which your Soul creates so it may advance on its path of enlightenment. Imagine that your Body is simply a vehicle for your Soul's dream journey.

How would your new year be different?

Image that your Soul has made agreements with other Souls in your Core Soul Group to assist one another along your journeys of Soul growth.

How would your new year be different?

Image that each 'new year' is an opportunity to bring your Soul journey to your awareness. Allow your Soul to lead you into the 'new year' and your Self to know that you are simply a vessel for your Soul.

Be aware that all of the Beings in your Core Soul Group are learning as well. My dear, do not take any critical words or harsh actions personally. Those behaviors are simply an outward reflection of their inner pain.

Recognize this as an opportunity for you to recognize those parts of your Self. You, too, at times have been critical of others. You, too, have used hurtful words.

My dear, as others are behaving in these ways, they are serving as your reflection of your previous Self in times of pain. Recognize your previous Self.

Forgive your previous Self. In that moment, you also forgive the person who serves as a reflection of your previous Self. In that moment give gratitude to the Soul of this Being who serves as your reflection.

My dear, it is in the energy of gratitude for these Teachers in your Soul Group that you separate their human frailties from their True Self, their Soul Self.

And thus you separate your own human frailties, your past behaviors, from your True Self, your Soul Self. In that moment you are in your heart, in your Soul, and you lose the sense of linear time. You are one with all. You are one with your Soul.

How would your new year be different?

My dear, allow the 'new year' to remind you that your Soul does not recognize time as linear. Your Soul only sees time as circular...an upward spiral.

When another person reflects an aspect of your Self which you are healing, know that your Soul is simply recognizing your journey of the upward spiral. That is, you recognize an aspect of your Self that you are healing, so you may continue on your upward spiral of Soul growth towards enlightenment.

Use this human concept of a new year to be a time of reflection...to see your reflection in ALL behaviors (those perceived as positive as well as those perceived as negative) of those in your Core Soul Group. See a reflection of your past expressions of pains or fears.

My dear, above all, recognize when one in your Soul Group provides you with a reflection of your Soul's innate qualities...a reflection of your enhancing love, kindness, generous spirit, joy, compassion....

Allow your Self to recognize, focus, and reflect on the upward spiral. Recognize the reflection of the aspects of your Self which you are healing and your Soul which you are enhancing.

Most importantly, my dear, recognize and focus on the reflection of your innate and loving Soul qualities which you have come to this life to enhance. Return to your Soul Self. It is in this moment that you enter timelessness.

You enter ease. And you allow your life to be easy.

How would your new year be different?

Allow it to be easy, my dears. And it is so.

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"Denial - a Gift or a Curse?"

Question to Paularyo:
I'm having trouble staying on the Spiritual Path. What tools can you offer to help me be more consistent?

Channeled Message from Paularyo:

My dear, along your Path to Wholeness, you employ the gift of denial. Denial is both a strength and a curse. The strength in denial is the ability to fit into your culture's beliefs, mores, and behaviors.

When you deny your gifts and unique strengths, you become unseen...one of the many. You do not stand out. You are not...your greatest fear...perceived as standing above (better than) others.

To fit into your culture is the path of Childhood...to feel, to be seen, and accepted as a part of your family and culture. To easily fit into the flow is the Child's goal.

You have experienced suppressing parts of yourself so you could fit the mold of what others expected of you. This is the gift of acceptance. And the curse of hiding parts of yourself from your Self.

My dear, allow that phase of your life to be your Past, and enter your Present without secrets.

Go within to discover your Wholeness.

Wholeness implies Oneness. One with the Universe of Spirit. One with your eternal Soul. One with your unique gifts.
My dear, these gifts have been with you through all time.

Meditate upon your uniqueness. Allow it to flow from your subconscious to your conscious self...to your knowing.

Allow it to flow into each of your cells. Allow it to be one with you as you allow yourself to BE One with the Universe, with your gift, with your Soul, with All That Is.

Envision your life as a vessel of energy flow from the Universal Spirit, through your heart, to those along your Path. A vessel of love...of peace...of joy...of healing. A vessel of your unique gift...sharing your Be-ing with those who come upon your Path.

In your daily walk, imagine Spirit flowing into each one of your cells and through your heart to the world. As you allow this, you become a Messenger of Spirit.

Allow it to be easy. And it is so.

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"Healing a Broken Heart"

Question to Paularyo:
I feel overwhelmed and confused all the time. I can't seem to find clarity.

Channeled Session with Paularyo:

PAULARYO: Good afternoon my dear. As we tap into your energy field we feel frustration with your social life, yes?

CLIENT: WOW! How did you know?

PAULARYO : We feel your emotions....we feel your disappointment.

CLIENT: Particularly with one gentleman.

PAULARYO: We feel that you had expectations that have not been met, and this brings disappointment....and sadness....and feeling stuck. This stuck feeling then becomes generalized to other parts of your life.

Your expectations of others is a huge lesson.

My dear, this sadness surrounding the loss of a dream is an old story with you. It happens to you again and again. Re-experiencing an old habit brings it to the surface for healing.

That is a good thing....yes? Although it is painful.

My dear, you are ready to heal. We know that about you.

CLIENT: Pain is to be expected. Geez, I want to get off this karmic wheel and overcome my difficulties in intimacy and partnership and hopefully to be successful with others.

PAULARYO: Yes, we understand. My dear, the lesson for you is around